Moving day is upon you and you are too busy reiterating and revising all the preparations you made for it to burden yourself with thoughts about what happens next. You will be scanning the moving checklist over and over, looking for something you missed, and you will be going through the boxes, checking if everything is packed properly and whether they will hold. You will be checking in with the moving company to confirm the date and time of the move, and will be busy making space for the removal van.
Yet, all that the relocation is about will hit you while on your way to the new address. Somewhere along the way to there, while resting from the worries you might have about the moving van reaching the location successfully, you will be assaulted by a variety of thoughts – ones that occupy the mind of everybody when moving house.
“Will I fit in?”
This is a common thought when moving to a place you are largely unfamiliar with and have no acquaintances there. It stems from the worries about making new friends and fitting in the lifestyle of the new area.
“How much different will life be?”
Another common question, this one is asked by people who fear changes and are unsure whether they will cope with the new setting and lifestyle, if there is one. This is the fear of the unknown striking at you, and you should be prepared for it.
“Will my friends stay in touch?”
Of course, you will be ready to keep in touch with your previous life, but when going away, you always have the fear that people you are leaving behind will continue their lives without you and sooner or later you might get forgotten. After all, you chose to have a new life, and they remained where they are.
“Will I meet new friends?”
A new life is bound to bring in new people in your life. A big worry comes from the anxiety that you might not like any of them, or, even worse, none of them will like you. You should not dwell on that thought for too long, there will be as many opinions about you as there are people you will meet – some will like you, some will not, just as it was before.
“Will I cope with the new life?”
One thing you can never be sure of until you try it is living on your own in an unknown place. This question is one that plagues the minds of everybody who goes through a relocation, but it is ultimately pointless – if you know nothing about the new place, then you can predict nothing about life there. It is again a case of the fear of the unknown that you have to overcome.
“Will my spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/family handle the change?”
If you have a girlfriend/boyfriend or a spouse or a whole family that you are taking with you, then every now and then you will inevitably wonder how they feel about the upcoming changes, especially if you had to undergo moving house because of your work. Sure, you already discussed it, but you can never be sure if they agreed and were supportive just because they want to motivate you and if they are not withholding their worries so that they don’t trouble you. Again, don’t worry – if there is a big issue they have, it will come out sooner or later.
The first thing you need to remember when moving home is that there is no need for anxiety and worrying about the future. The latter is beyond your control so stop thinking about ifs and buts, and let the dominos fall as they would. The relocation is already underway, so all you can do is adapt.
